Drama Llama is Dramatic

The continuing saga of the resident Spanish Inquisition Drama Llama (to be known from here on out as SIDL).

Now.. when we left off the tale, SIDL was apologizing to the guild leader, and we were being made to feel like we were overreacting because we don't like this girl. Fast forward to yesterday afternoon. We have a forum titled NSFW - Tattoos and Piercings, for anyone who wants to show off their body art, even that in "adult" locations. SIDL has said that she has tattoos, but had up until now not posted any pictures in there. Well yesterday I log on to see that she has posted something there, so I go to see. She says, "Do fetishes count as NSFW?" and posts a picture of herself on her hands and knees in a very suggestive outfit, and another of her kissing another girl, jokingly saying it's our priest CL with her hair dyed blonde.

To me this says, "yeah, I said sorry to the guild leader, but I really don't care what you think. I'm going to do what I'm going to do, and because my boyfriend is not only the MT but also a CL, watch me get away with it." So finally last night I mention it to the guild leader. I said something to the effect that those pictures really tell me that she's not willing to compromise or make any effort at reform. He tells me that he has deleted them.

Oh, reallllly???

Well, would you look at that! Here we'd thought that he was on their side, but perhaps we were wrong. Long story short.. I was talking to one of my other priest friends in guild chat, play-flirting (I said *smooches*, she said "*blushing* you know what I like.." this is how our friendship is, and has been for years. Her boyfriend and I do the same thing.), and good old SIDL can't contain herself. In guild chat she says stuff like, "Stop, that's inappropriate girl-on-girl chat, this is not the proper place, I am offended.", which translated in my head as "I'm overreacting and making a big deal about this because you all are PERSECUTING ME when I just wanted to hang with the big kids and be cool".

The guild leader stepped in and told her to cut it out. At this point, he's pissed because she brought the whole thing into guild chat. Bad move, SIDL. So all of us involved (except SIDL) are pulled into the guild leader's vent channel (the voice tag for it is "The you're probably in trouble" channel, lol), to discuss what we're going to do. He says he's getting whispers that she's being held to an unfair double standard, that if it's ok for me to behave like that, her behavior should be ok too. And we all go nuts at that point, because her behavior is SO different than what I did, there's no way.

I told him that he should talk to her boyfriend and see if there's anything he can do to smooth stuff over. Her bf responded that she's not going to back down because she feels that she's being treated unfairly. So now we're stuck. She's not going to change, and if she's not going to change, we're all going to leave. And all of US leaving will honestly put him in a worse spot than if he loses the one tank. Besides me, it's the lock CL, the priest CL, the hunter CL, one of the druids, and another one of the priests who isn't even online because his computer fried itself, but who doesn't like her just based on her behavior on the guild forums, and who has been friends with the guild leader for even longer than I have.

So after like an hour of this, he comes up with the only solution that might help at the moment. He says that since she is going to be leaving for the summer, he was already planning to kick her once she left, but that he didn't want to tell us because he didn't want to make us that happy (lol). But until then, he gave us permission to put her (and all of her alts) on ignore. I had asked last time if I could, but he was very stern about not doing so. He said that the last person who put another guildie on ignore was now the CL of another guild. But given the circumstances, he'll allow it until she leaves. I was happy enough to hear that he was planning to kick her anyway.. but being able to put her on ignore will make it that much nicer.

So I am a happy little Asara today. I think the next few weeks are going to be much more pleasant :)

A Guildie Problem

Hopefully this one will appeal to both my RL and my WoW readers.. I need some advice!

Our guild's Main Tank at the moment is a Paladin. He's a pretty good guy, though he does get a little overly stressed at us DPS with regard to when we should start DPS-ing on occasion. We have mostly worked through that.. he made a macro that he uses to tell us when he thinks he's built up enough initial threat. Sometimes he forgets to use it.. but this is beside the point, and not the problem.

The problem is his girlfriend. Her raiding main is a resto shaman.. and she's not bad, so far as I can tell. She's usually not assigned to heal my group, so I don't know for sure. That's not the problem either. The problem is her attitude. Because her boyfriend is pretty vital to the guild, she seems to think that she can act however she wants and get away with it. And so far she's been right. She has learned how excited the boys get when the girls talk about sexual things and takes full advantage of that just about every time she is online. The rest of us girls in the guild are guilty of that from time to time as well, but we stick more to innuendo, rather than bald in-your-face statements. She doesn't seem to get that.

As an example.. the last time she was online, two of the other girls in the guild were talking about other characters they have, one named Bambi, one named Kandi. The guys were like, wtf, you guys have characters with stripper names? And she turned it into a discussion about herself, and how if she was a stripper she'd wear a mask so nobody would know who it was up there stripping. There was a joke made about mexican wrestling masks, and she was like yeah, but I'm french and scottish, which means I have the right to have sex and stay drunk, oh and us scots can't wear panties under our kilts. One of the guys said that girls shouldn't wear panties, and she says, I didn't for like two years, but now I think they're fun.

At that point I'm like, ok, I have had enough of this. So I say something like, I think that's enough, thank you. And she fired right back at me about the one (ONE) time I was involved in that sort of a discussion.

Now, I am not the only one that's tired of her. Not just the sexual guild chat, but her prima donna attitude. Everything has to be about her all the time. And nobody can talk to her boyfriend in guild chat without her chiming in on it either. I feel bad for the poor guy. Before she joined the guild, I had no problem with him at all. He gave me some really good tips on how to tank with my pally. But once she joined, he stopped being so cool.. except when she's not around.

Anyway, we dragged the guild master back online at this point. We have talked to him already about her and the way she acts, but he never seems to be online when it happens. And he has defended her on each occasion. This time he talked to her on vent, and she said oh, sorry sorry, but I just thought that because of that one other time, she shouldn't have a problem with me talking like that, we're all adults here, blah blah blah. So again she is off the hook, and we're the ones getting talked to like we're in the wrong for overreacting.

So what do you all think? Should we continue to put up with her BS and hope she goes away, or should we take the initiative and leave ourselves? A couple of the people who don't like her have 70's in a raiding guild on another server.. not quite as progressed as we are, but pretty close. They have said that we're welcome to transfer over and join it if we want to. It's getting more and more tempting too. The only thing holding me back right now is how much I like my guild master. He's been a wonderful friend to me for pretty much the whole two years I've been playing the game, and I would hate to leave him behind. I have the feeling that it would seriously damage our friendship if I left. I could be wrong, but I am pretty resistant to finding out, if I can avoid it. What would YOU do in my shoes?